I know my next post was supposed to be a solution to the welfare problem, but I think I over reached a bit. Entitlement programs is way to big a subject to handle in a couple of short blog posts. I am currently rethinking how to approach that particular subject and have been letting my mind wander a bit. Tonight I was watching a movie called the Rebound. In one scene of the movie the main character is in a group self defense course and the sensi is standing in front ranting about the ocean of female anger. At first I did about the same thing I have always done and kind of listened half hearted because while I agree with feminism I have never understood the anger so many women feel. As the sensi went on though, I began to realize something that I have never understood before, and that is why women feel so angry. It is because quite simply they haven't been allowed to be angry and even today they are not allowed to feel this most basic human emotion.
Think about this for a second and you will get what I am saying. When a women is pissed off that her husband has cheated on her do we allow her to be angry? No, instead we tell her she needs to "get over it" and if she can't than we make fun of her. If a woman reaches out to get vengeance for being cheated on, she is called a bitch or worse. Yet if the tables are turned and its the man who has been cheated on he is justified in his anger. His friends tell him he should be angry, that it's right to be angry.
It goes beyond being cheated on though, far beyond. When a woman is passed over for promotion and gets angry we don't tell her that she is right in her anger, instead we criticize her for thinking she is worth more than she is. Yet, a guy does this, he is told by his buddies he is right and that he should be angry. It's not just the workplace either, women aren't allowed to be angry when they are treated with injustice. They are told to be quiet, be demure, not rock the boat. When a woman is angry about how someone treats her children, she is told to not be angry to let the children's father deal with it. This is complete bullshit and so wrong I can't even comprehend it and this is exactly how I have felt most of my life.
I have been allowed to be angry my entire life. Whenever I was hurt, not only was it okay to be mad, I was encouraged to be angry. When I had a problem with someone else I wasn't told to be quiet and demure, I was told that I had every right to confront the individual about the problem, that I had the right to be angry. As I think about this, I realize that had I not been given that permission to be angry, I would have so much anger built up. I would be unbelievably angry about all the crap I have been put through without being allowed to actually defend myself in any reasonable way that holding it in would take a strength of will that I don't believe I possess. Yet, while I may not have that strength of will, so many women do.
We owe a collective apology to every woman who has ever been told she isn't allowed to be angry. We owe and apology to every woman we have ever criticised for being assertive or for defending herself and her own honor. We owe a collective apology to every woman who has ever been told to "let it go." Not only do we owe women an apology, we should stand behind them and let them cry out in barbaric rage at the injustice they have been forced to endure because we didn't want them to be angry.
I am just now beginning to see why so many women are angry, and I tell you what, If I were a woman I would be angry too.
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